I have many times in my life experienced a number of times where I consider some people to my close friends and trust them. We use to have same views and hung out for many hours . But the fact is many of those friendships have ended. I later realized that God has used certain friendships in my life for some specific times and seasons of my life. But how can I know it was God? I many times tried to solve the problems between my old friends but it have never solved and even became worse.
In life We have many friends who start out with in the world that share same love toward worldly things like partying and other stuff. But when we stop our old ways , such relationships end soon. This is because the friends that we are once very close don’t desire to walk in the way that we have been called to walk in .
So are they bad people? Did God has forgotten about them? My answer is NO. God wants very best for you. God loves all. He will make sure the people in your life that will cause you to turn away from HIM go away from you.
I many times asked Lord to take away anything in me that is not pleasing to him. I asked him to make me whole and heal anything and all of my brokenness. It is simple as it is difficult to let go of old habits, it is even more difficult to let go off our old relationships that we know we have outgrown.
I tried to reach back these old relationships and I want to somehow save my old friendships when it is fact that only one who can save anyone is Christ. Remember, When God is trying to use and develop you to next level, the best thing you can do is draw still more nearer and keep your focus on God. Donot reach back to the past to reconcile because the idea of closure can also be unhealthy if those results don’t pan out the way that we expect them to. Your value doesn’t decrease based on somebody’s inability to see your worth. Your worth is found in God, not the opinions of others .You donot needed to be validated by people in order to live your own life. Forgive the person for their mistakes against you, Pray to lord to Forgive you for any reasons you may have caused the person and move on with your undivided attention set on Jesus Christ.
They went out from us, but they did not really belong to us. For if they had belonged to us, they would have remained with us; but their going showed that none of them belonged to us. 1 John 2:19
It hurts to watch those we love struggle and decline to receive God’s hand in their life . it is painful to live in the recognition of God’s grace and watch others who suffer ignore that same grace that is afforded to them. As Christians we can plant seeds of faith, but only God can truly water those seeds and cause them to grow. In this way it is made plain that although we are to love our neighbors, we may not need to be in association with them. God has a plan for your life. He has worked out every angle and He knows where He wants to place you in the Kingdom. Trust that Christ even knows whom your friends should and should not be. He knows those who will cause you to stumble and those who will allow you to grow.
Allow God to prune and produce more fruit from your spirit. Don’t stay on relationships that have ended before . Instead of that be thankful for the time you had and the lessons you learned.